Sunday, November 09, 2008

Bulldozing the bully

My approach to dealing with the bully at work so far has been pretty much one of indifference than action. I guess it does not work too well in all situations. Yesterday I decided to bulldoze the bully into submission! literally only, not figuratively before you imagine me with a bulldozer swallowing that poor chap!

Of course, me being me... I did not feel good after the deed, dwelling on how I could have dealt with it differently, maybe I could have added a bit of humor in my reply! looked for a resolution rather than revenge! Somehow being so outright...that's just not me as they would say! Looking back, I think, I had to reply, to free myself from the tangles of any mis-doing, after all I was in the right.

I've come across my fair share of bullies at work and elsewhere, be it the know-it-all colleague, or the colleague who takes credit for your work, nit-picks on every aspect of your work, portrays his resentment by being bitter, obfuscates your emails or even that demanding friend who makes you feel guilty every time you disagree with a suggestion.

Matthew 5:5 says 'Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth'.

Not in this case! I believe, we make our own bullies. A bully will follow you only as long as you allow them, stop showing your left cheek ever so often. Advice of course that is tough to follow.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Have you seen "Lage Raho Munna Bhai" ?

-M

RZD said...

No, have not... what's the relevance?

Anonymous said...

It was a nice comedy about how a hallucination helps a thug teach people to deal with corrupt people, bullies, etc. Really funny film.

-M